Is That Too Much To Ask?

I find myself increasingly frustrated each time I seek medical help. Despite my clear need for thorough investigation, my requests for lab tests are repeatedly turned down because they are deemed unnecessary due to my perimenopausal status. It's exasperating to be told that all my blood work is fine, only to be advised to "just lose weight" as if that's the magical solution to all my health concerns.

Why is it that doctors seem so hesitant to look deeper into our health issues? I understand that perimenopause brings about a range of symptoms and that blood work might not always reveal underlying issues. But it feels dismissive and disheartening to have my concerns brushed off so lightly. It's as if my symptoms and worries don't warrant the attention or consideration I believe they deserve.

Gaining weight unexpectedly is concerning, especially when I am actively working with a dietitian and training 4-5 days a week. Despite my efforts, I am still gaining weight and I want to understand why. It's not for lack of effort or commitment on my part. This ongoing struggle has been part of my life for the past 10 years or so, and it's one of the reasons why I hate going to the doctor and avoid it whenever possible.

What makes it worse is the assumptions some doctors make. One doctor even assumed that I would automatically have diabetes because of my weight, without considering my actual health markers and lifestyle. Such assumptions are not only hurtful but also undermine the trust and respect that should be fundamental in the doctor-patient relationship.

What I truly need from my doctors is partnership and understanding. I need them to listen to my experiences and work with me to uncover the root causes of my health issues. It's disheartening to feel like I'm being dismissed because my symptoms are being attributed solely to perimenopause and my weight.

Is it too much to ask for a more comprehensive approach to my health? To have my concerns taken seriously, and to feel supported in seeking answers beyond the surface? I believe that patient-centered care should involve a deeper investigation when warranted, not just a quick dismissal with generic advice.

Ultimately, I just want to feel heard and validated. I want to know that my health concerns are being taken seriously and that my doctors are willing to work with me to find the best solutions for my individual needs. Is that too much to ask?