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Could You Please Move Over? Is What I Should of Asked.

Have you ever had a trigger that made you feel "less than"? That’s what happened to me just recently, and it was a disheartening experience. Not having a place to sit or fit comfortably in a space left me feeling excluded and undervalued. This experience raised a crucial question for me: Should we have to ask for accommodations? Unfortunately, yes, because society often overlooks the needs of folks in larger bodies. So, how do we change this? How do we cultivate the confidence to advocate for ourselves? It starts with acknowledging our worth and understanding that everyone deserves to feel included and respected.

Acknowledging Our Worth

The first step in advocating for ourselves is recognizing our inherent worth. Each of us is valuable, and our needs are legitimate. It’s essential to internalize that everyone, regardless of size, deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. When we understand our own worth, we are better equipped to stand up for ourselves and others.

Raising Our Voices

Advocacy begins with speaking up. Sharing our experiences and raising our voices helps bring attention to the issues we face. By talking about the discomfort and exclusion we sometimes experience, we can educate others and foster a more inclusive mindset. Let’s share our stories, not just for our own sake, but to pave the way for others who might be too afraid to speak out.

Supporting Each Other

Building a supportive community is crucial. When we see someone struggling or being excluded, we should extend a hand or speak up on their behalf. Being allies to one another strengthens our collective voice and makes our advocacy more powerful. Together, we can create a community where everyone feels seen and valued.

Shifting Attitudes and Fostering Empathy

Creating a more inclusive environment involves more than just making changes in physical spaces; it requires a shift in attitudes. We need to foster empathy and understanding, recognizing that every person’s story and experience adds value to the collective tapestry of our society. By promoting empathy, we encourage a culture where diversity is embraced and celebrated.

Celebrating Small Victories

Advocacy can be challenging and sometimes disheartening, but it’s important to focus on self-compassion and celebrate the small victories along the way. Progress, no matter how slow, is still progress. Surround yourself with a supportive community that uplifts and inspires you. Share your journey and listen to others' stories; you'll find strength in knowing you’re not alone.

Empowerment from Within and the Collective Spirit

Empowerment comes from within, but it is nurtured by the collective spirit of those who believe in a better, more inclusive world. Together, we can transform our shared spaces into places where every individual, regardless of size, feels comfortable and welcomed. Remember, advocating for ourselves is not a selfish act but a necessary one. Each time we speak up, we are making it easier for someone else to do the same.


Our voices matter, our needs matter, and by standing united, we can build a world that truly embraces diversity and inclusivity. Let’s continue to raise our voices, support each other, and celebrate our progress. Together, we can create a society where everyone feels valued and included. Let’s work towards a future where no one feels "less than," and every individual can find their place comfortably and confidently.

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